One of the best kept secrets about being human is that most of our suffering is not personal. Even though much of the time we compare our insides to other people’s outsides and often conclude that everyone else is ok and we are not, it’s not personal. Most of our suffering is simply a part of our human nature. That feisty inner critic in your mind? Most of us wrestle with it until we learn skillful means for making peace with it, which is entirely possible, by the way. One of the things the mind does when we don’t give it a task to do is that it makes commentary about the present moment. The commentary is often critical, and much of the time it’s directed inward toward ourselves. Regular mindfulness practice has been shown to increase grey matter in the area of the brain that relates to empathy and compassion, so just meditating regularly will grow your self-compassion, as will bringing mindful awareness to the moments in which you’re being unkind to yourself, pausing, and engaging in a merciful act of kindness toward yourself. And just in case your mind is telling you that self-compassion equals self-indulgence, it’s not true. There is a skillful way to develop self-compassion and still hold ourselves accountable.
If your compassion does not include yourself, it’s incomplete. –Jack Kornfield
As you move toward a dream, the dream moves toward you. –Julia Cameron
Creative energy is available to us in infinite supply, but in order to access it, we must invite it in, welcome it, and nurture it. We must create space and time in our day to honor it. If we ignore our creative muse, she ignores us, and we become at risk for spiraling back into the abyss of our unhealthy thoughts and behaviors. Read more