When we practice clear seeing and become willing to see the truth of our lives, we may feel disappointed if what we see is not similar to what we desire. The important thing is that we are willing to see our lives as they are with nonjudgment, kindness, curiosity, and self-compassion. We can apply our mindfulness skills here. Once we are willing to clearly see how things are with nonjudgmental acceptance, we can ask ourselves, “Now what?”
Acceptance does not mean that we have to remain stuck or static. It is possible to practice clear seeing and acceptance and to also then develop a systematic plan for creating the kind of life that we truly want. Step by step, we can create an intentional life that feels more fulfilling and less stressful.
What aspects of yourself or your life do you tend to turn away from or try to escape? What would it be like, for just a few moments, to try to practice clear seeing with mindfulness– kindness and curiosity? What do you fear about turning toward this aspect of yourself or your life? What would happen if you sat down beside yourself and practiced clear seeing with your presence? Now that you see yourself clearly with nonjudgmental awareness and kind acceptance, are there aspects of your thinking or behavior that you would like to change? If so, what are two small steps you can begin to take toward change? You might consider exploring these inquiries in your mindful journaling practice.
Jen Johnson is a mindfulness coach and therapist teaching meditation for healing and creativity. Learn more about working with Jen.